Cold reading dating
You pride yourself on being an independent thinker and do nor accept others’ opinions without satisfactory proof.You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations.You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage. You have a strong need for other people to like you and for them to admire you.” Naturally, you shouldn’t think you have to quote this verbatim. The key is to get the general gist of it and verbalize it in a way that is appropriate for the context which you share with the woman, and which is congruent with your vibe.Interestingly, the best cold reads are 75% positive and 25% negative.At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing.Disciplined and controlled on the outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure on the inside.It can say something noncommittal, such as “Please go on” or “What does that suggest to you?
You have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others.
The young woman in this conversation, in other words, is being gradually seduced by the doctor’s cold reading skill. One version of his program is called “Doctor” The program is designed to “talk” like a Rogerian psychotherapist.
How does this doctor so effortlessly peer into another person’s soul and build an intimate connection? Such a therapist is relatively easy to imitate because the basis of Rogers’ technique is simply to feed the patient’s statements back to him in a paraphrased form.
Cold reading, like its sister skill non-evaluative listening (also demonstrated above), is a powerful rapport-building conversational combo.
It is especially effective when used on women, who, being the naturally intuitive sex, tend to formulate phantom connections from nebulous, fact-free associations, like the kind that is the stock in trade of “reading” gimmicks such as palmistry and astrology.The above was quoted from an excellent paper on the seductive potency of cold reading, a subject about which the Chateau has written extensively as being a useful tool for bedding women, and which has been a staple manipulation technique described in PUA literature.