Eli finkel online dating
But the bigger problem is that no profile can transmit the full essence of a human being.
“You get people online who think they know what they want in a partner, but that’s not going to dovetail with what actually inspires their attraction when they meet a flesh-and-blood person,” Finkel says.
Once, she met a man online who was a yoga enthusiast who owned the same books she did.
“We met in person, and there was actually no chemistry.” Online dating also differs from traditional courtship in that people get to know one another before they meet, trading e-mails and photos.
Similarly, the report says, “people become cognitively overwhelmed” as they scan dozens of profiles.
“When it goes on too long you get too lofty an impression of what a person is like, or too particular,” Finkel says. “In the beginning, I had these long, flowery e-mail relationships, and then I met the person and it was like, ‘Oh, my God. ’ ” Now she meets men in person as soon as she can.Parents and village elders used to play matchmaker.